Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Doug and Michael
We have been together for almost 30 years now. When we met in a bar in Ohio, all of our friends said it would never last! I guess we showed them. We are getting ready to celebrate the 25th anniversary of our Holy Union that was performed at a Metropolitan Community Church in Ohio. We have lived at different periods of time in Ohio, of course, Florida, Maryland, California and Virginia. We were married in California by an old friend and pastor of ours outside of Sacramento August 31, 2007. We are one of the ones that the state still recognizes. Unfortunately, the Federal Government, who I work for, does not. I have not been able to get Michael on my health insurance benefits. In addition, we can't file a joint Federal tax return. This would be a significant benefit for us because of my salary being significantly higher than Michael's. And last but not least, even though Michael is a Veteran, we can not use his VA benefits to buy a house together because the VA will not recognize my income. Even though the Federal Government does not receognize us as a couple because of DOMA, our families do and they include the 3 dogs that we currently have and the three that we have previously had!